Why is Mom Resistant To Assisted Living?

If you’ve ever presented the option of assisted living to your parent without careful thought about your approach, then it’s somewhat safe to say you’ve run head-on with avid resistance to the thought. The reality is that older generations generally oppose the idea because they associate assisted living with being “put away in an old folks home”. Nothing could be further from the truth but this is nonetheless a pervasive notion among those 70 years old and older. In order to understand why the resistence is so strong, you’ll need to step back for a moment and try to understand a little about the history and evolution of assisted living.

Older generations who are currently in their 70’s and 80’s were 20 and 30 years old in the 1960’s and 1970’s. At that time senior housing (as we know it today) was non-existent. Rather, seniors requiring daily assistance were unfortunately classified into a single category and moved into nursing homes. These homes were dismal and depressing places at best – and this is likely the mental picture your loved one paints in their minds when you mention assisted living.

Needless to say, the nursing home care industry earned itself a well-deserved poor reputation over the years and your parent likely witnessed their own grandparents bite, scratch, and claw through activities of daily life in order to avoid “the home”.

When 1979 rolled around, however, everything began to change. A new consumer-focused business approach began to evolve. The approach was wildly successful in the 80’s and continued to gain steam. By 1993, the government officially distinguished between four types of assisted living and by the year 2000, “quality of care” was the catch phrase of a new industry standard.

Yes, it is true that “assisted living” can be best defined as a type of housing intended for seniors that require some amount of personal or medical assistance. And, yes, your parent will likely associate this definition to mean the old nursing homes of the 60’s. However, that definition is but only a postscript to the amazing care homes available to seniors today. In fact, many facilities could be better characterized as resort-style living. Obviously not all facilities have comparable amenities or staff. You’ll need to do your homework but, as a whole, the industry is miles apart from the 1960’s “nursing home” stereotype. So, if you’re aware that this stereotype may be a driving force behind your loved one’s smokescreen of objections, it will help you address the true issue more directly.

Take a quick look at a shortlist of benefits and activities assisted living offers your loved one today:

– Daily Housekeeping Provided

– Laundry Completed

– Live Music – On-site Concerts

– Planned Outing Activities

– Monitored Nutrition

– Individual Apartments/Rooms Available

– Educational Classes

– Movie Nights

– Barbecues

– Medication Management

– Spa and/or Pool Access

– Social Opportunities

– Birthday and Holiday Celebrations

– Fitness Rooms

– Gardening

– Safe Environment

– Family and Friend Open-Door Policy

– Physical Assistance Available 24/7

– Transportation Buses: Prepared and Safe

– Board Game Tournaments

– Physical Activity Classes

– Spiritual Services

Assisted living can sometimes be a difficult topic to introduce but there has never been a better time than now to make the transition. As with all industries, assisted living still has room for improvement. Some facilities are definitely better than others as it relates to ownership, caregivers, locations, amenities, and prices. Fortunately, Transitions Assisted Living, LLC has already done the work to help you locate that very special assisted living Phoenix area facility. They are truely the assisted living Phoenix AZ specialists supporting you and your loved one’s smooth transition.

Objections are a natural part of the assisted living conversation. Hopefully this insight into the past will help you understand your loved one’s apprehension and allow you to have more productive conversations in the future.

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